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Permalink Reply by windowartist on October 12, 2012 at 12:10pm

Yes my son got called a mamma's boy after I called.   He said he didn't care much at that point because he just wanted to get the heck out of there, but I really laid off calling after I heard that.  I also wanted him to fight this battle on his own.  It was a tough one for me especially when I saw the mistake they made in not having him go to legal when he should have which pushed his leave date farther back.  I would say call if you don't hear anything from him and absolutely feel you must, but use your own judgement on that.  Each kid is different too.

Permalink Reply by windowartist on October 12, 2012 at 12:13pm

Patty,

I hope it all turns out okay for him.  My son also took ALOT of time into this decision and that's what confused us so much.  But sometimes you just don't know if somethings right for you at first...not to say we shouldn't stick with our commitments because we felt he should have.  But they have to live with this decision and if they are depressed, anxious or whatever than they need to talk to someone.  Problem is- once you open up and tell anyone you're depressed there, they send you over to SEPS most likely-after talking to a psychologist.  He did not know it would result in that.  Years ago when my husband was in the Navy, they would just say 'suck it up' and go back...things have changed.  Good luck Patty

Permalink Reply by Thetwoj on October 19, 2012 at 9:05am

Melissa, How are you hanging in? Is your son home yet? Just wondering.

Permalink Reply by melissa:) (ship 13- Div011) on October 25, 2012 at 2:38pm

My son is finally home, He told me he never got the messages that i called or wanted him to call home. He said he was way in the back building and the recruits in the front are always on the phone. So this is what happened, My son was in class and was digging his arm with his pen cap (not realizing what he was doing from lack of much needed sleep) Some one saw the blood and they took him to the hospital. Thats when all the drama began, they sent him to a psychologist who diagnosed him with adjustment disorder with depressed mood. He has never done anything in his life to try to harm himself or anyone eles. It makes me very upset that they just dismiss these kids without proper cause. They are not fully prepared for the psychological effects that they are going to be put through. I realize that they would only find this out when put through a situation such as what happens at boot camp, but it is still very upsetting to know that they are thought of in a way that belittles them if they can't handle the stress. On a positive not my son did say it was a life changing experience in what short time he was there. He got a small dose of reality.. I am proud of my son for giving the Navy a try. Now we put are heads together and see what we do next. looking into some Colleges right now.. I wish all those parents the best of luck in there own situations and hope all works out in the end.. I want to thank everyone who supported me and gave me helpful advice.. I am gonna stick around for a while on this site, as i go forward with helping my son figure out his next move and hope you are all still there for me as i will be there for you as well:)  

Permalink Reply by Thetwoj on October 26, 2012 at 9:48am

You know it's funny, becasue that is exactly what my son was going in for, travel and education. I still think the Navy is a perfect choice for young people who don't have a clear path. I have always told my son how much it's a shame that you have to make the most important decisions of your life time at an age when you are completely clueless as to what you want and how much those choices will mean when your 40. I think my son was so hyped up on the idea of all the wonderful things he could get our of this expierence, that he never thought about what he'd have to give to get it. This was obviously more than he was mentally able to handle, and that's okay. Now when all his friends who went to college come home because they didn't take it seriously, our son's will be entering with a clear idea of what that education will mean and how important it is to do well. In otherwords...WINNING!!! LOL

Permalink Reply by Angie on October 26, 2012 at 11:35am

To be qualified under the FAFSA as a veteran...they had to be discharged from bootcamp for medical reasons and it must state that on their DD214 per 480(c)(1)

Permalink Reply by landlockedmom(Ship 12, Div 079) on June 11, 2013 at 4:32pm

Where is 480(c)(1)?    My son is having a difficult time with his college getting qualified as a veteran.

VA said they couldn't help with FAFSA.

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