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My son, 18 wants to enlist. His twin brother just graduated bootcamp and arrived A school 11/13. My son has,a girlfriend and won't join without making a,way for them to be together. So, does navy pay to relocate spouse to A SCHOOL? Or can sailor move wife, navy pay benefits and sailor live wth spouse at A school?
Also, his recruiter said to marry after boitxamp, that she doesn't like her recruits to marry before... bland she told him he cud marry after, spouse move to a school and benefits wth spouse paid. I, however, from reading on navy4moms site, feel it's not all cut and dry. Not so simple. Also feel mite be best to marry now, while waiting to shop out to bootcamp, as will likely be months ?, any feedback welcome! !!

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Do it as soon as possible!!!!

More than likely yes. The recruiter will more than likely not want to fill it out twice. I would suggest just doing a quick court house wedding, and starting the process and then do an actual ceremony after starting the process. It can take awhile to get everything done.
I can honestly tell you not getting married before Boot Camp really hurt us. It has been so complicated. After he left and we got on Navy for moms, I realized that we should've gotten married.Also how hard it is to move with them if there a school is long enough if you haven't gotten married. If you get married while in A school I have heard they will not pay for you to relocate.
I would say they should probably get married as soon as possible, it will probably be easier on them and the recruiter if they get married before going to MEPS. My husband was told we could get married after he went to MEPS but then he went to MEPS and got his job and the recruiter changed his mind and said no we couldn't get married. So I would think going before MEPS would make things that much easier.
We got married after meps the first time. There are no rules against it, they just don't want to do the paperwork over. It's not nearly as big of deal then though as it would be during a school.
I can't tell you how many fiances have wished they got married before boot camp. I've never heard of a single one wishing they'd waited. Unfortunately, every sailor's situation is different - length of A school, duty station assignment make a difference in the answers to your questions, but the only way to be sure she's on his first set of orders is to be married before going in, and that's not even guaranteed if he gets an overseas duty station. . Yeah, the recruiter may have to do extra paperwork, if they don't want to, go find a different recruiter.

Waiting to get married will make it hard to find time to get the paperwork done, he'll have to get it approved while he's in A school and from what my husband experienced, they seem to discourage it. There are hoops to jump through, some class to take, signatures from his chain of command to authorize it. And depending on his length of school, he might not have time to get it done. Then the cost of her moving to his duty station is on them, the navy won't pay for it. I don't think the navy will pay to move his stuff if he's single, either, just the stuff he's got at A school (someone correct me if I'm wrong please!) Financially, it behooves a couple to be married. The jokes about marrying for the benefits aren't off base. And it's not even necessarily about the benefits, it's that it's so hard to be with someone in the military if you're not married. It's very expensive and hard to physically be together.

I do tell people this though : if it's a foregone conclusion that you're getting married, do it. If you're on the fence, do NOT. Once you're in, if you're miserable and realize it was a mistake, it's so so hard to get back to where you were. You've given up your job, home, everything you know, and if it doesn't work out, it's really hard to recover and get back on your feet.
Thank you for your time in responding! ! Great info and advice.
Update!!!!! To all of yall who gave such quick and accurate info, I just want to let yu know, that my son got married monday, 2 days ago!! He and his wife then took their marriage license to recruiter, the last piece of paper she was waiting on to confirm his meps date, next tues. Yaaaay. Soo glad for the info that the pros, those of you who have and are, walking the walk, gave to us. It's a bit frustrating, but important to know, that the recruiters don't know all the information ins and outs of what recruits need to know. I have advised my son and his wife to direct their questions to "the pros" on navy4moms, girlfriends, fiances, wives and A school sites etc. If they want to be sure they get right info, instead of finding out the answers the hard way. Ok, so thank you!!!
And congrats to my son and new wife. AND to his Twin brother at A school corry station, pennsacola, phase 2, and waiting to class up. Hooyah!!!

Make sure they join the bootcamp moms group, there is very good inf for new spouses there.  When they get paid, DEERS, etc.

Anti m, thanks. So i am a member of navy4moms, when my first son went to bootcamp sept-11 this year. Is there a particular area to click in to find info on deers, pay etc?
To all yu helpful wives, fiances and girlfriends!!!! My son and his girlfriend DID MARRY, before meps. And went to meps monday, and there finishing up as we speak. Had some paperwrk misplaced delays, ha, which held him over an extra night, day at meps. I'm so happy for him and his wife. He's enlisting as sonar tech. To Connecticut 9 wks for A school and then 37 wks to C school San Diego.
I am indeed a proud navy mom of twin boys, men. One a sailor at A school pennsacola florida, and waiting to hear shipout date for son to follow his brother's footsteps and lead us thru another "interesting" bootcamp, emotional & blindfolded Rollercoaster ride. Ha. Lol. Thanks to yu all, they were advised by yu all, wisely, to marry Before bc, and not wait till after bc,expect it to go one way, and run into obstacles unexpected. Hooyaah!!

Congratulations!

Here are the links, if you did not find them:

http://navyformoms.com/group/bootcampmoms

http://navyformoms.com/group/bootcampmoms/page/when-will-the-recrui...

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