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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 4266
Latest Activity: 13 minutes ago

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Dental insurance questions

Started by Brooke 13 hours ago. 0 Replies

Hi, I was hoping someone could help me better understand tricare's dental program, I think it's MetLife. I need to replace my retainer and I was trying to get an idea of all the cost I would be responsible for. From what I understand I have to pay a…Continue

Housing ? Norfolk Virginia

Started by vivi16. Last reply by abuon18 on Friday. 2 Replies

Hi so my husband has his orders it say Norfolk afloat east. What does that means ? He is in Aschool right now. He has been so busy these days that has not had time to start calling to the housing office. So i found something call heat that cam help…Continue

C School?

Started by DeAnna. Last reply by Anti M Aug 8. 1 Reply

My husband will be starting C school in October and im trying to find out if he will be able to live with me off of base while he is attending school or will he have to stay on base in the barracks? Continue

All the legal stuff that comes with moving...

Started by sourpatchkid. Last reply by 18gf Jul 17. 2 Replies

Hi everyone! We are getting ready to do our first PCS (gulp). Of course, I am completely overwhelmed and have no idea what I'm doing or am supposed to do.One thing I really wonder about is how to handle things like residency, driver's licenses, car…Continue

Engaged and pregnant

Started by AlphasWife16. Last reply by Michael Jun 27. 5 Replies

I was wondering if anyone had any advice on what to expect once I have the baby in September.  Is there paperwork that we will need to fill out so that our daughter can be on his orders since we arent married yet?  He is at RIMPAC until shortly…Continue

Not on his orders????

Started by Blisshay. Last reply by Blisshay Jun 23. 6 Replies

My daughter just found out her and their son are not on her husbands pcs orders to his fist duty station but they are on his page 2. They were married and had a son when he joined. Is this common?? Can they be added once he gets to his command??…Continue

Moving to San Diego

Started by Sailorsfish92. Last reply by sailormaid Jun 22. 2 Replies

Hello! I am looking to relocate to San Diego in mid-july/early august and was wondering if anyone had any luck with apartments out there in safe areas that will not make you sign a year lease. Any and all suggestions are welcomed! Not having much…Continue


Started by AlphasWife16 Jun 21. 0 Replies

Hello!Just wondering if there are (which im sure many of us) spouses that have loved ones headed  to RIMPAC? Im having a harder time than I thought I would saying goodbye last night and I would love to talk to any other spouses that might be having…Continue

On Base Living

Started by thinNavyblueline. Last reply by thinNavyblueline Jun 16. 9 Replies

Hey All! I was just curious how y'all felt looking back at your decision to move on base with your spouse. Do you wish you had moved with them sooner? Or do you wish you had waited and spent more time in your own life before moving with them? Thanks…Continue

Pcs move

Started by Blisshay. Last reply by Michael Jun 7. 3 Replies

moveGood morning!!! My son has his orders for his move. Does he have to report before he takes his family or should they go with him?? Can he call his TMOr does he have to do it in person??? They didn't do anything in for him in a school and he is…Continue

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Comment by Anti M on September 10, 2013 at 5:07pm

None of the new sailors are allowed to spend the night in a hotel anymore, they all must stay on base each night of PIR weekend.  That changed a couple years back.

Comment by J's Wife on September 10, 2013 at 2:37pm
TGodfrey12- they don't get leave until after a school usually. They get liberty PIR weekend though. If they stay in great lakes they will have daytime liberty to spend with family or whomever and will just have to go back at night. If they're going elsewhere they are often aloud to stay with you in the hotel on Friday night then get on a plane or other method of transportation on Saturday (my sailor just staid at great lakes so I know less about the traveling). As far as moving, it depends on a lot of factors. Are you married to your sailor would be the biggest. Sailors with a school's longer than 6 months are permitted to live off base, as long as they okay it with the proper command. My husbands school is a little shy of 6 months. We paid out of our own pocket for me to move here, the job I had lined up fell through and I've spent 2 months searching for a job (just got one). Luckily we receive BAH or we wouldn't be able to afford the apartment. The reason I brought up marriage is because we know a couple where the fiancé moved out here without a job and they don't receive BAH and have been strapped financially. It took 2 months for them to be approved for their marriage. They're married now and have not yet started receiving BAH.

That being said, my husband and I love being able to see each other. But we have had to accept some financial hardships associated with the move. We are just now finding good programs for our 4 year old daughter and she is just finally making some friends. Also, if he cannot live with you, your time together is somewhat limited. Idk if you've heard about the phases of liberty in a school, but they basically have to work their way up to freedom. My husband is in phase 3 and still not really happy with the amount of freedom he has, but he'll be in the fleet before he knows it, so he'll be fine. Basically, he has duty section every 4 days (a day he has to stay on his ship and has watches). He can come home for a few hours after they call liberty (no set time on when they decide to post them) and weekends (after about 6 weeks) they can spend the night as long as they don't have duty section the next day. Sometimes it kind of feels like my husband and I are dating again. Lol just because he only gets to stay the night like 4 times a month. But I am happy with our decision to move. I love being able to see him and have our family together whenever possible. I think it was the best decision for us, but it came with things we had to be willing to deal with (and some of them were unforeseen). If your recruit is staying in great lakes don't hesitate to message me with any questions. I've become pretty familiar with the area.
Comment by TGodfrey12 on September 10, 2013 at 1:57pm

I have a question for all of the girlfriend's and wives out there, and fiancee's too. When my SR graduates boot camp, how long can his personal leave be, or is he permitted any at all? Also, when he gets to A school, are my daughter and I allowed to move there to be with him or is it best for us to wait until he gets his more permanent orders?

Comment by Anti M on September 10, 2013 at 7:54am

Your Tricare insurance began when he signed you up for DEERS.  Your military ID is your insurance card.

Comment by aaisha on September 9, 2013 at 3:50pm
My husbands pir was sept 6 is there any advise anyone can give me on what happens next.he said he's stays GL another week then is being sent to Virginia for 5 weeks. He's going to be a culinary specialist. Also when does our insurance actually begin? All I've gotten so far is my military id. Please help I'm kind of clueless
Comment by TGodfrey12 on September 9, 2013 at 11:36am

Hello everyone. My husband is currently in Boot Camp. He graduates 25 Oct 2013. So I am new to the Navy life, and so is he. This separation has been rough and I cannot imagine how difficult it will be when he goes into deployment. 

Comment by ceh on September 9, 2013 at 9:49am

@beachmom, thank you for the info!! I love the area, we spent the weekend exploring, there is so much to do!! I think we are doing on base housing, they actually have housing available so we are taking advantage of living on base. 

@J's Wife, just from the past few days I love it at norfolk! Def a huge base!! But so awesome. Fleet and family is super nice and helpfully so is housing!!! They give you so much info. 

Comment by beachmom76 on September 9, 2013 at 5:52am

@ceh...the decision to live on or off-base depends on so many factors that no one can really tell you what will be best for you.  We lived off-base for the first 10 years (San Francisco, Groton and Norfolk) then on-base (San Diego, Great Lakes) then off again, on again, off again, on I think you get the idea. My recommendation would be to go the Housing Service Center (on Hampton Blvd, just down the road from Gate 5 of Naval Station Norfolk), find out what base housing you are eligible for, then go check out the neighborhood. Also ask the housing staff for a list of recommended off-base units and look at some of those.  The Fleet and Family Support Center shares a parking lot with the housing office; you should stop in there and ask to speak to the Relocation specialist. They can give you a ton of local information that may help you make a decision. Be sure to ask for a Welcome Aboard packet. If you are planning to find a job in the area, ask the Relocation person to guide you to the Career Development Resource Center; staff there can show you local job announcements and help you connect with state employment services.

Best of luck to you! We have been stationed in Norfolk four times and decided to stay when hubby retired. We love the area!

Comment by J's Wife on September 9, 2013 at 1:20am
ceh- I'll be curious to hear what you find; that is one of a few places we've been told we may end up in a couple of months.

And gee gee- welcome :) I hope you find the sight helpful and comforting. I know I have!
Comment by ceh on September 8, 2013 at 8:40am

I am making my first trip to Norfolk, it is so over wheleming to see the base!! I have been told so many different opinions about housing. Some people say live on base, others say find off base housing. What are yalls opinion? 


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