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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
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I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

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Wedding after Courthouse marriage?

Started by Bronco14. Last reply by Michael yesterday. 19 Replies

Hi ladies! I have seen a bit of discussion about this topic on here, but didn't find anything recent and I would love some advice. My sailor is in A school right now, and will be getting orders for C school or additional training within the next…Continue

Moving while SR in A School

Started by USNwifeIL. Last reply by USNwifeIL yesterday. 2 Replies

Hello all! SR will be going to RTC in a couple weeks and he'll be heading to A school after BC. I've got a career so we'll be figuring out how to manage 2 careers once he's full time. We currently live no where near family, and I've got some…Continue

Basic then A school then C school, are they back to back?

Started by YoungNavyWife. Last reply by YoungNavyWife yesterday. 7 Replies

From my understanding, the day after basic they go to their A school if they aren't in Great Lakes. My husbands a school and c school are both in Pensacola. My question is, will he start c school right after a school? He has 18 weeks of a school and…Continue

Getting seriously nervous about him leaving!

Started by Tricia. Last reply by alab610 on Sunday. 3 Replies

Ok...the "day" is closing in.  He leaves Feb 9 and I'm really getting scared!  I've been with Adam for 8 years and I've never been away from him this long.  He's usually the one to calm me down because I'm the planner and the worry-wart.  Is there…Continue

getting married the weekend of PIR

Started by navywife90. Last reply by Anti M on Friday. 22 Replies

So me and my SR want to get married the weekend of PIR we have been together over 7 years so its not that we are rushing into anything we just need the extra money while he is in A school so we can save up for a wedding when he gets home but does…Continue

Being on Hold?

Started by TeamMac. Last reply by TeamMac Jan 31. 4 Replies

Hey everyone!My husband is currently waiting to start boot camp in April. After that he will go to Pensacola, FL for Air Traffic Controller. Does any one know what training site that is?Also, I have notice quite a few people saying that their…Continue

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Has anyone shipped their vehicle?? If you have, what companies do you recommend? I'm not sure which ones to trust or which ones are a scam. We're shipping from CA to SC.


Started by woodrose. Last reply by woodrose Jan 27. 6 Replies

So I just got back from Chicago (graduation) and my husband is off to A school. I got to spend most of the whole weekend with him ;P and now that I am back home im incredibly frustrated and angry! I feel like I didnt get enough and sometimes I just…Continue


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Started by Teddiboo09. Last reply by Navyfam Jan 25. 7 Replies

Hello all , I had s question . My husband had told me to ask . Well he took 13 days off for the holiday stand down and he's AECF FC . He recently graduated boot camp 12/4 . He wants to know if anyone knows when ATT school will start and if he gets…Continue

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Comment by Anti M on September 10, 2013 at 5:07pm

None of the new sailors are allowed to spend the night in a hotel anymore, they all must stay on base each night of PIR weekend.  That changed a couple years back.

Comment by J's Wife on September 10, 2013 at 2:37pm
TGodfrey12- they don't get leave until after a school usually. They get liberty PIR weekend though. If they stay in great lakes they will have daytime liberty to spend with family or whomever and will just have to go back at night. If they're going elsewhere they are often aloud to stay with you in the hotel on Friday night then get on a plane or other method of transportation on Saturday (my sailor just staid at great lakes so I know less about the traveling). As far as moving, it depends on a lot of factors. Are you married to your sailor would be the biggest. Sailors with a school's longer than 6 months are permitted to live off base, as long as they okay it with the proper command. My husbands school is a little shy of 6 months. We paid out of our own pocket for me to move here, the job I had lined up fell through and I've spent 2 months searching for a job (just got one). Luckily we receive BAH or we wouldn't be able to afford the apartment. The reason I brought up marriage is because we know a couple where the fiancé moved out here without a job and they don't receive BAH and have been strapped financially. It took 2 months for them to be approved for their marriage. They're married now and have not yet started receiving BAH.

That being said, my husband and I love being able to see each other. But we have had to accept some financial hardships associated with the move. We are just now finding good programs for our 4 year old daughter and she is just finally making some friends. Also, if he cannot live with you, your time together is somewhat limited. Idk if you've heard about the phases of liberty in a school, but they basically have to work their way up to freedom. My husband is in phase 3 and still not really happy with the amount of freedom he has, but he'll be in the fleet before he knows it, so he'll be fine. Basically, he has duty section every 4 days (a day he has to stay on his ship and has watches). He can come home for a few hours after they call liberty (no set time on when they decide to post them) and weekends (after about 6 weeks) they can spend the night as long as they don't have duty section the next day. Sometimes it kind of feels like my husband and I are dating again. Lol just because he only gets to stay the night like 4 times a month. But I am happy with our decision to move. I love being able to see him and have our family together whenever possible. I think it was the best decision for us, but it came with things we had to be willing to deal with (and some of them were unforeseen). If your recruit is staying in great lakes don't hesitate to message me with any questions. I've become pretty familiar with the area.
Comment by TGodfrey12 on September 10, 2013 at 1:57pm

I have a question for all of the girlfriend's and wives out there, and fiancee's too. When my SR graduates boot camp, how long can his personal leave be, or is he permitted any at all? Also, when he gets to A school, are my daughter and I allowed to move there to be with him or is it best for us to wait until he gets his more permanent orders?

Comment by Anti M on September 10, 2013 at 7:54am

Your Tricare insurance began when he signed you up for DEERS.  Your military ID is your insurance card.

Comment by aaisha on September 9, 2013 at 3:50pm
My husbands pir was sept 6 is there any advise anyone can give me on what happens next.he said he's stays GL another week then is being sent to Virginia for 5 weeks. He's going to be a culinary specialist. Also when does our insurance actually begin? All I've gotten so far is my military id. Please help I'm kind of clueless
Comment by TGodfrey12 on September 9, 2013 at 11:36am

Hello everyone. My husband is currently in Boot Camp. He graduates 25 Oct 2013. So I am new to the Navy life, and so is he. This separation has been rough and I cannot imagine how difficult it will be when he goes into deployment. 

Comment by ceh on September 9, 2013 at 9:49am

@beachmom, thank you for the info!! I love the area, we spent the weekend exploring, there is so much to do!! I think we are doing on base housing, they actually have housing available so we are taking advantage of living on base. 

@J's Wife, just from the past few days I love it at norfolk! Def a huge base!! But so awesome. Fleet and family is super nice and helpfully so is housing!!! They give you so much info. 

Comment by beachmom76 on September 9, 2013 at 5:52am

@ceh...the decision to live on or off-base depends on so many factors that no one can really tell you what will be best for you.  We lived off-base for the first 10 years (San Francisco, Groton and Norfolk) then on-base (San Diego, Great Lakes) then off again, on again, off again, on I think you get the idea. My recommendation would be to go the Housing Service Center (on Hampton Blvd, just down the road from Gate 5 of Naval Station Norfolk), find out what base housing you are eligible for, then go check out the neighborhood. Also ask the housing staff for a list of recommended off-base units and look at some of those.  The Fleet and Family Support Center shares a parking lot with the housing office; you should stop in there and ask to speak to the Relocation specialist. They can give you a ton of local information that may help you make a decision. Be sure to ask for a Welcome Aboard packet. If you are planning to find a job in the area, ask the Relocation person to guide you to the Career Development Resource Center; staff there can show you local job announcements and help you connect with state employment services.

Best of luck to you! We have been stationed in Norfolk four times and decided to stay when hubby retired. We love the area!

Comment by J's Wife on September 9, 2013 at 1:20am
ceh- I'll be curious to hear what you find; that is one of a few places we've been told we may end up in a couple of months.

And gee gee- welcome :) I hope you find the sight helpful and comforting. I know I have!
Comment by ceh on September 8, 2013 at 8:40am

I am making my first trip to Norfolk, it is so over wheleming to see the base!! I have been told so many different opinions about housing. Some people say live on base, others say find off base housing. What are yalls opinion? 


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