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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3831
Latest Activity: 4 hours ago

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Questions about your significant other in the Navy?

Started by CharleneGbay 7 hours ago. 0 Replies

Hi everyone, I'm new to N4M. My husband just left for boot camp the 21st of October, and I just wanted to let you all know I work for the PSD (Personnel Support Detachment) for the Naval Post Graduate School in Monterey, Ca. If you ever have any…Continue

Rules of living with sailor (unmarried)

Started by nicolel818. Last reply by Cierra 22 hours ago. 6 Replies

hello there, I've been searching this site and elsewhere about any rules about living together if my sailor and I are not married, but have't come across much. Is it allowed or not allowed? Would it be allowed in just a regular house not on base or…Continue

Military Ball

Started by WillPower. Last reply by Anti M on Wednesday. 1 Reply

Hello,I was wondering if any of you knew how often they have a Military Ball where significant others are invited? Also, is this something that they attend if they are in A school? Or only once they are stationed?Thanks!Continue

The process of getting married while in A School?

Started by NavyBaby29. Last reply by FutureNavyWife323 on Tuesday. 9 Replies

My fiancé graduated from bootcamp on Oct.17 and is now at A School in Mississippi we want to get married in a small setting such as the court house but are a tad bit confused on where to even start. We understand that a chit form will be needed but…Continue

What if we get married while hes stationed overseas?

Started by BrandyW. Last reply by Anti M Oct 24. 2 Replies

The idea of my sailor and I getting married and me moving overseas has been brought up a few times now, and I sort of feel like I need to get some insight into exactly what would happen! Ive looked up information before, and until I found a post on…Continue

SERE School

Started by A&B14. Last reply by A&B14 Oct 21. 2 Replies

Has anyone's sailor been through SERE school? Just hoping he's doing alright..Continue

Questions about A school!

Started by Lauren. Last reply by Emily-aaronsgirl11 Oct 21. 2 Replies

Hello All!My boyfriend graduated from boot camp on Friday! He will be attending A school in Charleston, SC! I was just wondering if anyone could give me some hints how communication works when he is in A school? When does he get his phone? Can he…Continue


Started by Chio. Last reply by chowdercall911 Oct 21. 10 Replies

Hi Everyone My hubby just left for,BC today Can anyone feel me in on what to expect?Continue

Going to A School with your Sailor?

Started by Jackie. Last reply by Jackie Oct 17. 14 Replies

My husband is still in BC but last time we talked he had mentioned our son and I going to A school with him. Anyone have any experience with this? I've been told that if his school is at least 6 months long the Navy will let us move with him.…Continue

marriage and getting stationed

Started by ashnicole. Last reply by Anti M Oct 14. 3 Replies

Hi everyone,I was wondering if you all can help me. my fiancé is currently in A school down in Pensacola, Fl. We plan to get married Aug 1, 2015. I have ben looking at stuff online and on this site and I am a little confused and was wondering if…Continue

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Comment by beachmom76 on September 9, 2013 at 5:52am

@ceh...the decision to live on or off-base depends on so many factors that no one can really tell you what will be best for you.  We lived off-base for the first 10 years (San Francisco, Groton and Norfolk) then on-base (San Diego, Great Lakes) then off again, on again, off again, on I think you get the idea. My recommendation would be to go the Housing Service Center (on Hampton Blvd, just down the road from Gate 5 of Naval Station Norfolk), find out what base housing you are eligible for, then go check out the neighborhood. Also ask the housing staff for a list of recommended off-base units and look at some of those.  The Fleet and Family Support Center shares a parking lot with the housing office; you should stop in there and ask to speak to the Relocation specialist. They can give you a ton of local information that may help you make a decision. Be sure to ask for a Welcome Aboard packet. If you are planning to find a job in the area, ask the Relocation person to guide you to the Career Development Resource Center; staff there can show you local job announcements and help you connect with state employment services.

Best of luck to you! We have been stationed in Norfolk four times and decided to stay when hubby retired. We love the area!

Comment by J's Wife on September 9, 2013 at 1:20am
ceh- I'll be curious to hear what you find; that is one of a few places we've been told we may end up in a couple of months.

And gee gee- welcome :) I hope you find the sight helpful and comforting. I know I have!
Comment by ceh on September 8, 2013 at 8:40am

I am making my first trip to Norfolk, it is so over wheleming to see the base!! I have been told so many different opinions about housing. Some people say live on base, others say find off base housing. What are yalls opinion? 

Comment by andrea d on September 8, 2013 at 12:23am

Hello ladies. So I found this mini series on line called carrier. Its a documentary where they went out on the Nimitz during a six month deployment. It has ten episodes and shows the day and life of our sailors while on the ship. it helped me a lot to know what my sailor is up to right now. Also military spouse magazine has had some awesome articles about PCS and deployment you can find it on facebook

Hope you all are doing good. Prayers to all our sailors and their families  

Comment by J's Wife on September 7, 2013 at 11:44pm

Thanks Jenn and Anti M!

Comment by Anti M on September 5, 2013 at 9:49am

If you ever need to weigh a truck yourself, you can go to any truckstop with a CAT scale.  It costs about $10 each time.  You can find local locations online.  Never go into the weigh stations you see along the highways, those are for DOT commercial vehicles only. 

Comment by Jenn_NicksWifey on September 4, 2013 at 10:45pm

No problem, I try to help with what I can.  The first 2 moves we used ABF UPack.  I like their service, but it keeps getting more expensive.  For our next move, which is currently in the works, just waiting on housing to open up, we're using  I haven't done business with them before, but they beat UPack's price for the same space and have very similar contract terms.  Always read the fine print and know the cancellation policy. 

Comment by J's Wife on September 4, 2013 at 10:27pm
Jenn, you've been so helpful!! Thank you so much! What company did you use to drive the truck, if you don't mind me asking? I want our orders already so I can start planning. Lol I'm such a planner!!
Comment by Jenn_NicksWifey on September 4, 2013 at 10:14pm

When we did the Navy reimbursed move last Oct, the wording on the form said you had to weigh the empty truck at the origin and then weigh the full truck at the destination.  You don't have to stop at any other weigh stations.  We used a truck rental that drove it for us.  They dropped off the empty truck at our house, we loaded it and called them to pick it up.  They had the empty truck weighed before they dropped it off and then after they picked it up (same weigh station) and emailed me scanned copies of the tickets after they dropped off the truck.  If you drive the truck yourself, just make sure you get it weighed before and after or you're screwed.  When you do the move counseling, ask the counselor for specifics and read the form before you do the moving then you know exactly what the requirements are.  I know things change frequently in the military, so it's always best to double check with someone who works in that department.

Comment by J's Wife on September 4, 2013 at 9:57pm

How does the weighing of the truck work? I've seen weigh stations on the side of the road; do you really stop at every one of them? Is it time consuming?


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