This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.
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Join groups! Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself! Start making friends that can last a lifetime.
Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak
All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC
...and visit Navy.com - America's Navy and Navy.mil also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.
OPSEC - Navy Operations Security
Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind. In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships." OPSEC is everyone's responsibility.
DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.
DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."
Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:
Events
**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed. Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.
**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:
In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).
FOLLOW THIS LINK FOR UP TO DATE INFO:
**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED. Vaccinations still required.
**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.
RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021
Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.
Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.
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Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful
Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it . You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!
Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
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Discussion Forum
Help needed!!
Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue
advice!
Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue
Graduation coming up
Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies 0 Likes
Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue
Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!
Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply 0 Likes
Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other. A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue
New here!
Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies 0 Likes
Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue
Fiancé Advice
Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies 0 Likes
My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue
Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??
Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies 0 Likes
Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue
Hello Everyone!
Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply 1 Like
Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue
POA to get a military i.d.
Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies 3 Likes
Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue
sending photos
Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies 0 Likes
My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19. I just received his box but no form letter yet. As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos. I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue
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Comment by Anti M on February 9, 2016 at 8:46am
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Allison, I was an ET, so while I was at Great Lakes a long time ago, I have kept up on what I can through N4M and other places. I joined to support my friend who became an ET, and is like a son to me. He's in the fleet now. So is my nuke nephew.
A special request chit is supposed to be done in a couple weeks or faster, and he can submit one anytime. Phase one is fine, he will need to get on it early, so he can either go to the class or chaplain counseling and get that out of the way. It pertains more to very young sailors, but it also provides many answers about resources and benefits for dependents.
Phase two is a good time to get married and begin the packet. Some wait until phase three so they can have an overnight stay on their wedding night, but that is a personal choice. It means more to some couples than to others. He can enroll you in DEERS without you present, although getting the ID card is easier together. If he's begun school, he'll need time off to go get this all done, maybe not much, but cross that bridge when you get there.
You are right, the Navy won't pay for your move. However, you can stay in Great Lakes with minimal stuff, and go fetch it when you can. He'll be there about a year total, so you have lots of time to decide. The trick will be when he get orders to C school, some are very long, long enough for another move, some fall just short, so you get stuck in Glakes for a few months without him. Noting to worry about now, just a head's up that is gets complicated (and expensive).
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Comment by alab610 on February 8, 2016 at 10:05pm
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Hi Michael, my husband leaves for boot camp at the end of the month in Great Lakes. I have a toddler home too and a 2 month old. This will be such a transition for us. I too am learning a lot from this site. What is GSE? My husband is going for MA.
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I know I gotta learn these abbrevations that everyone is talking about so I dont feel so dumb
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Hello everyone,
I am so glad to join this as I have learned so much in the past few days. My husband leaves for boot camp in March and me and my daughter of 3 will miss him. I am glad this is here so I can talk and learn more of what to expect while hes gone and what will come next. My Husband is going to be in school for GSE and we have been told that 99% he will be based in Norfolk. I know this is the Military and nothing is set in stone.
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Comment by Allison on February 8, 2016 at 5:23pm
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Anti M that's a lot off great info. I'm not worried about relocating because my school has a couple of integrated campuses around the world and online, but I'm currently on a break anyway after a year and a half of no vacations or anything. I think we'll probably try to get the proper paperwork done. As much as we want to be together, I don't want to risk a bad start to his career. Do you know about AECF? He hasn't heard if he'll be ET or FC, but I don't think that matters for this. When would be a good time to do it? I've heard the phase 2 liberty is the best time, but is it possible to do it before? I don't really mind if he has two buddies following us around, we need two witnesses for power of attorney anyway...at least in my state. It would be nice to try to get it done when I already planned to be there, give him power of attorney, and come home and start making my arrangements to move since I'm pretty sure the Navy won't pay for that. We can try to do DEERs together, or he can do that and the live ashore packet (with the power of attorney). I wouldn't plan on taking him overnight or anything since it's not allowed, and he thinks it will actually remove some of the stress to do it then because he can handle some paperwork in his free time, but it'll be hard on us to try to coordinate everything again, and he'd rather just have me there. I'm not going to let him risk getting that paperwork filled out. Do you know about how long it takes a special request chit to go through?
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Comment by NavyWifey12 on February 8, 2016 at 11:59am
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Hey y'all! Anyone know how the BAH change works once my husbands checks into his duty station? He is flying out on Wednesday because his A school will be done. We currently get CA BAH, but we are relocating to WA. I know they get paid the 15th so he will be checking into his command before that. Does BAH get prorated based on his new command check in? Or do you have to pay back any extra? I'm moving up there in two weeks. Thank you!
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The biggest uniform change on the horizon is changing the crackerjack dress uniforms. For women, they will get new dress blues, the crackerjacks instead of the suit. It will be an expensive change.
The good news on the NWU change is most uniform changes are gradual, and there is time to wear the old uniform before spending money on the new ones.
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Uniform allowance tables:
http://www.dfas.mil/militarymembers/payentitlements/2016ClothingAll...
Anything called a pay is taxable, any allowance is not. State taxes are by where you hold residency, usually the home of record. If you each have a different state residency, you each pay taxes in those states. You can file a joint federal tax return, but must file individual state tax returns. I switched mine to my husband's state, as they did not tax military pay, or dependent pay out of state.
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No one has reported getting in trouble for marrying PIR weekend, however, they do sign a page 13 stating they will obey all the liberty rules. That includes not getting married. So it is possible to get in trouble, which could be anything from losing liberty privileges to losing their school. Is it probable? Not based on past knowledge. You never know when they will decide to crack down, so you have to go by whatever the current "feel" is. No one on the RTC side can give him permission to marry, TSC is the school side and "owns" him after PIR. Two commands.
You can't access his GI bill anyway, not for ten years.
AECF is long enough to live with him offbase. Many couples do, either in an offbase rental or in housing, which is right next to base. Once you are married and he has you enrolled in DEERS, he can put in a Live Ashore packet to reside with you offbase. Takes about a month. He has to be in good standing, which is what makes me wonder about the repercussions of a PIR marriage. Just a lot of what ifs involved.Once you are married, he gets BAH for you whether you live together or not. During training, if you live elsewhere, he can live in the barracks for free. No problem in A or C school. This will not be true at future commands, married sailors must have their own domicile unless approved for special circumstance geo-graphical bachelor. This does not include a spouse who doesn't want to move because of school or job.
A word about Tricare. If you carry any other insurance, Tricare becomes secondary. Very few other insurances can compare to Tricare, which is essentially free to dependents on prime, and very cheap on standard.
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