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Comment by Chanteale on December 15, 2015 at 8:53pm

Does anybody know whether the navy pays to have furniture and things of that nature shipped to wherever my husband is stationed or do we have to pay out of pocket?

Comment by Bronco14 on December 14, 2015 at 10:44am

Hoosier, I absolutely agree. However, each situation is so different. My sailor did not come straight from bootcamp, so him and I have been apart for quite some time... I have also just finished college so do not have anything holding me down in any one specific place, therefore my life is not being uprooted :) moving for A school isn't best for every couple, but it is best for some :)

Comment by Anti M on December 14, 2015 at 9:54am

Also, recruiters rarely lie outright.  They often do not know current A school policy.  They know fleet policy.  And in the fleet, no permission would be needed.

Comment by Anti M on December 14, 2015 at 9:51am

Here's the thing with the marriage chits... they cannot be denied unless the marriage is not legal.  Training commands do make them turn in chits so they can be counseled and advised about dependents rights and responsibilities, and to screen for fraudulent marriages for the money.  
However, lots of sailors marry on leave without the chit.  I have never heard of one being punished, although technically, they could be.  Will he get chewed out?  No doubt.  Will he lose his school?  No.  I'm not sure if they still give student evals, and he'll want those to be high so he gets a better shot at order picks.  Maybe.  But no captains mast or official punishment has been reported anywhere I have seen, and we would hear about it.  But try marrying without the chit while at Great Lakes, not on leave, and they will hand the sailor their ass for disobeying orders.  It is a fine line.  

In Japan, I did deny a marriage chit, but somehow we got a sailor who was 17.  No way we'd let her marry a guy she knew for three weeks.  There's a reason the Navy makes them wait until they are 18 now!  She did marry when she turned 18, but it was a different guy.  We begged her not to, and we were right, but legally could not say no.  

Every training command expects a handful of sailors to return from stand down with a marriage certificate in hand. 

Comment by Texasmom on December 14, 2015 at 4:08am

And jenni, thank yu too for feedback. All of Yalls info has been helpful!!!

Comment by Texasmom on December 14, 2015 at 4:06am

Bronco thanks for sharing yur experience. Really aporeciatebit. Wishing yu the best.

Comment by Jenni1453 on December 14, 2015 at 1:42am

Erica, it's not always that the recruiters lie. Things change constantly in the Navy, and vary by command. Sometimes they are just misenformed. If he needs a chit it will probably be approved with no issues. I wouldn't worry. Have him talk to his command first thing tomorrow though. Stand down begins Friday, and any chit will have to be turned in tomorrow to have a chance.

Comment by Bronco14 on December 14, 2015 at 12:34am

I am getting ready to move to his A school within the next few weeks. I looked online heavily for an apartment, and my boyfriend went and visited the one I chose during the weekend while on liberty. He was shown around, loved it, and we went from there. The aparment mm complex is perfect because they offer short term leases and everything can be completed online. I will be driving there. Not with much, to keep the expenses low. Plus, I don't need a lot since we won't be there for long. Also, this site had very little encouragement for me to move to A school by myself... but I'm so happy I've made the decision to do so. It was what was right for my sailor and I. So don't let your son's wife be discouraged if she wishes to do the same! It is totally possible.

Comment by Jenni1453 on December 13, 2015 at 10:37pm

Alexa, he can get a copy of his page 2 if he logs into BUPERS.

Comment by Jenni1453 on December 13, 2015 at 10:36pm

You are approved by the ship at A school. You can start the live ashore process as soon as you get there, but he cannot actually move until phase 2. At least that's the case at GL. Only the sailor can start the process of live ashore unless he has given someone else power of attorney. I couldn't arrange for our move until I had one, even though we are married.

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