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Comment by Sherri_M on July 19, 2011 at 10:14pm

J's mom....I agree with your comments...I'm not for any girl who just wants a sailor!  But there are many of you young ladies out there who are great!!!  You know and understand the Navy and you support your sailors!   You ladies are the great ones!  You know how hard it can be and understand the support needed, and that you will need support as well during deployments etc!  Us moms love you girls like you were our daughters!  It's not easy being a Navy wife and you guys do it with style!

 

Comment by Sherri_M on July 19, 2011 at 10:11pm

some great talk about marriage!  Thanks!  I love to get people's feedback!

I agree, my son and his fiance are adults, and I know they truly love each other.  As a mom, I'm concerned with deployments and how hard it is to complete college when you're young and have other payments--that's why I didn't complete my degree when I was younger.   I do understand why they want to get married, after all I was 18!  I also know some people that were married at 18 and have been married forever, and also those that were divorced within a year or two.  However, I know people that waited and it still didn't help.  I think with ANY marriage it is how hard two people work at it--they will have their ups and downs, everyone does! 

We don't know how much time we will have to plan the wedding..we have to wait till Michael gets leave, he will give us most likely about 2-3 weeks.  We'll do the best we can, and I'm sure it will be wonderful. 

Just found out that Michael finally got put into another room...so he doesn't have to see his classmates anymore. He's on the opposite side of the base with other guys who also are being "denuked", so I think this will be helpful to him...not so lonely now. 

 

 

Comment by Emily-aaronsgirl11 on July 19, 2011 at 9:16pm

I'm staying out of the wedding conversation. But I do love William's comment about single sailors not taking a vow of chastity. 

Comment by missa_m on July 19, 2011 at 9:00pm

Thanks Emily!

Comment by Mama C (PS E-Class 1202-1) on July 19, 2011 at 7:56pm

I'm just curious here.  I've been wondering what the "M" stands for after my sons class?  (1136 M) It's gotta mean something, but what?

 

Comment by maryquitecontrary (1131 M) on July 19, 2011 at 7:52pm

I appreciate what all of you have had to say regarding marriage. I have to say, though, that as one of those notorious nuke girlfriends I'm feeling a little unsettled. Not all of us are bad, I promise! I would be upset if my future mother-in-law felt the way that some of you have expressed you do. Of course I understand that every situation is different, and I have talked to my nuke about how shocking it is it see 18-19 year olds (still teenagers!!) getting married on a regular basis. We are both 24 so I realize that this places us in a slightly different category then some of your sons who may be fresh out of high school. I have to say though, that I have felt some pressure to rush our plans due to the Navy. It is amazing, but I do understand on one hand why people rush into marriage in the military. There is so much uncertainty as far as schedules go, and if you (the non-military spouse) wants to be on their orders for their first duty station, you have to get married by some point in prototype. With all of that said, I do think it is very important to get some life experience prior to getting married, too. I am about to finish up my 2nd bachelor's degree in a couple weeks, and my nuke has done the college thing, too. Also, my nuke and I have gone through some very tough life experiences together that I think have shown us we can handle a deployment if we work as a team through it.

 

Just wanted to put my two cents in. I don't want to offend anyone...and I understand as parents it is hard to see your child doing something that you're not sure is best for them. Whenever my nuke and I have conversations about our future, I encourage him to keep his mom in the loop so that she is not caught off-guard when the time comes for us to get married. We've been friends since we were 12 and dated for over 3 years....but still want her to know it's "officially" coming. I appreciate what you said, J's mom.... and for some of the newer relationships, it might be best if they waited through a deployment to see if it was something that they could both handle. Every situation is different, and I pray that for all of you that have children getting married that you are unsettled about....that they will end up being blessings in disguise and many years of happiness will come as a result!

Comment by elizabeth77(USS SAN FRANCISCO) on July 19, 2011 at 5:54pm

William.......different strokes for different folks.

Comment by NancyJo (NNPTC) on July 19, 2011 at 5:49pm

William, I'm with you.  My sailor said the same thing but instead of distance breaking them up, which I had hoped, it made the heart grow fonder.  I'm making the best of it.  He's an adult and it's his choice.

Comment by William in Nashua on July 19, 2011 at 5:46pm

 

 

My son joined  the nuclear Navy to see the world, not to get hitched to a  high school old flame girl friend, or to the first Charleston belle who bats her eyes at him Lol.   Plenty of time for that after he is out in the fleet as a nuke, or  back in the civilian world with his Masters degree for that matter. To put it delicately, single nukes are not required to take a vow of chastity either, but I might be mistaken.  Lol.  That is just my 2c.

Comment by NancyJo (NNPTC) on July 19, 2011 at 5:16pm

Meanwhile, even at half a dozen times, you have seen your future DIL more than I have seen mine.

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