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Comment by LindaGirl on August 22, 2014 at 4:23pm

Lori, the same thing happened to my son when he first arrived in Hawaii. For about 2 months, he was housed with a different crew because there was no room for him where his crew was housed. He was a bit bumbed out, as he really didn't get to know the crew, or them him because he only saw them at work. When he moved into the same quarters, he felt a lot better, because, now he could socialize with them after work & it made for a closer bond. Eventually your son will be moved as well, they just have to wait for someone to leave.

Comment by BoomerSoonerMomma on August 22, 2014 at 3:55pm

Allen Texas - but from the Oklahoma side (Madill)...small world baby dukie's mama!

Comment by LindaGirl on August 22, 2014 at 3:42pm

Hi, to all sub moms. I just finished reading the various comments about missing our children whether it be because they are going off to college or because they are underway on their sub. I have to say, now that it is this time of year that college kids are heading back, & I hear moms say, how much they will miss their child, I think to myself, try having a child away in the military. At least in college you can always get a hold of your child 24/7 & you know where they are. But for us, esp. being sub moms it is so hard. There are so many times I think, if only my son were away at college instead of in the Navy on a sub, it would be so much easier. But then, I feel it's selfish of me to want that when I have to respect what my son has chosen to do & learn to live with it. I'm so glad we have this sight because it helps knowing we all feel the same way & that we are not alone & we understand what another mom is going through. Everybody, we all need a big group hug. (((Hugs)))

Comment by Pat L. in IL on August 22, 2014 at 3:21pm

FlowerPowerNavyMom, Small world.....I grew up in Lowell. Now in western suburbs of Chicago!

Comment by FlowerPowerNavyMom on August 22, 2014 at 3:09pm

Western Michigan

Comment by LoriM (div 337--Kevin's submom) on August 22, 2014 at 2:32pm

Jeanette, what is a a CS?  Thank you everyone for your comments.  I know I am not the only out there missing their Sailor.  I am not an empty nester per se. I still have a daughter at home.  She will be going back to school to get her masters degree to become a nurse practioner. She is an RN with her BSN and specializes in oncology.  She works nights (12-13 hour shift), so when she is home she is usually sleeping.  As she is doing right now on the sofa.  She seems to sleep where ever at times. 

I love that they have this site because it does help to have other people out there that understand the same things we are all going through.

Comment by Lisa on August 22, 2014 at 2:11pm

I live in Southern Oregon.  Where does everyone else hail from?

Comment by BunkerQB on August 22, 2014 at 1:54pm

There is no point in even trying to explain the difference between missing your child who is away at college and a loved one who is out on deployment and you haven't heard from him/her for over 6 weeks - yes, that was the longest period of silence we experienced while our son was out somewhere. Most people don't get it or they are just too wrapped up with their own separation anxiety to consider  circumstances of others. I find the easiest thing to do is come up with a quick, "Nice to see (talk) to you. Got a lot of stuff to do today, better run. Bye." Don't draw it out. Go home, get a glass of wine, cup of tea. Call up a Navy mom. Get on Navy4Moms. You'll feel better in no time. I am lucky to have a group of Navy moms nearby. We get together at least 3-4 times a year, often 6-7. Sometimes it's elaborate, other times very spontaneous and casual. Try and connect with other moms/dads in your geographical area. It takes some effort but so worth it.

Comment by Cerise on August 22, 2014 at 1:16pm

Jeanette, I don't cry easily but for some reason your post had me in tears.  My son is packing (or should be...) for his move-in tomorrow to his dorm room.  We will be empty nesters.  It wasn't hard to say bye to our older son (sailor) when he left for college, when he left for boot camp, that was hard.  And as others have commented, many doesn't seem to realize the difference, between have your son go to college or military.  A friend of mine has been talking about how hard it is that her daughter is leaving for college for weeks, she still has her other daughter at home.  Her college daughter will come home for fall break, Thanksgiving, Christmas etc.  And mom can go visit her at any time.  When we waved bye to our sailor son we knew we wouldn't see him for 2 months, we couldn't call him and never knew when he would be able to call us.  In 16 months he's been home once, for Christmas, and I don't know if that is even a given for all sailors (to be able to come for an extended leave, 2 weeks).

Comment by SunflowerMom on August 22, 2014 at 12:42pm

Mine, CS-Gold! 

Lori, I had to smile about your college comment, the talk is definately out there.  Personally, this is the first year I strongly felt the empty nest loss.  Moving my daughter into an apartment instead of a dorm, which meant furniture not just stuff seemed real.  Then when I came home to clean after the moving tornado, I opened my eyes and the only bed left at home from our 3 kids belongs to my sailor.  Took a couple days to process that one! 

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