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Comment by Navymom904 on October 23, 2014 at 10:24am

I remember those days, life was truly simple then.  I also remember not having computers - let alone the internet - what was that back in the day?   Thank goodness we have evolved.  Without this site and everyone's help / guidance and prayers I would be in my own world (or under a "rock" ) of "wonder".  Although, I do believe that we all would take two steps back, and return to our faith, that we were raised , more so than what we tend to do now a days.   

Before my child left for BC, we didn't get the chance to spend time together.  It wasn't an option of us.  So it been several months (May to be exact) since we have had a family meal together, or just sit down and talk.  I still have challenging days.  But I take them with stride, prayer, and hope.  Knowing that we will be at PIR!! 

Have a wonderful day! 

((hugs)) 

Comment by diannep on October 23, 2014 at 9:49am

Polo:  When I went to college, 2 states away, back in the "dinosaur days" :-)  there was just a landline phone in our room.  No answering machines around then.  So, if I wasn't in the room or my roommate wasn't there, no answer.  Other than letters, that was the only contact my parents could have with me.  If I recall, we talked briefly once a week.  So maybe my generation was more prepared for the abruptness of Bootcamp and no communication from that experience (because of the expense of long distance calls back then, I couldn't just pick up the phone and call when I wanted to), but I think we have all gotten spoiled by instant contact so we don't do well without it!

Comment by Navymom904 on October 23, 2014 at 9:45am

Diannep -

Well said, and I concur with what you had written about not having any contact at all with their child in college.  Yes, it is extremely different.  Its ironic how I tried to explain that to my own sister, and she just didn't absorb or take the time to process what I was trying to say her about missing my child.   Not wanting to "rock the boat", by saying the wrong thing, or have me become extra emotional with her, I had to end the conversation right away.  

 I was also "chastised" by another person in my child life (it was a another mother), because I said that the Navy (gov't)  "owns" your SR/sailor.  This person said to me that they felt offended for my child by me saying such a thing.  It was like she was outraged. She has no clue.  But its no skin off my back, if that person does not understand that it is what it is.  

I truly feel that until a person experiences what we, as parents or spouses are going through with our SR/sailors, no one really has the true understanding of it all. 

I hope everyone has a great day  - keep busy and BREATHE!

Thank you - CATMOM509 for the scripture - They help a great deal!  <3

((Hugs))

 

Comment by diannep on October 23, 2014 at 8:23am

Bug5280:  Yes, friends try to be compassionate because they have suffered their own "empty nest" pain, and they mean no harm, but you are right....maybe if their child moves out of town, has no cell phone, no landline phone, no computer, and therefore no contact, they could understand better.  But they try!  We all understand here.  The Navy "owns" your SRs/sailors.  So that is so different.  Even when at duty station, they cannot go out of a certain radius on their own time without a chit routed.  So even their OWN time isn't there own time.  It truly is a commitment/sacrifice for all joining the military, but I bet many don't understand all that is involved.  I didn't until my son joined the Navy.

Good Morning All !

Comment by CatMom509 on October 23, 2014 at 2:50am

Bug5280,

I know your friend doesn't quite understand how much more of a sacrifice our SRs/Sailors have undertaken in joining the Navy, but she was just trying to say she understood the "missing her child" part of his not being home.  Just accept her trying to comfort you without comparing, if you can~~

I have a daughter in the Navy and a daughter in college and they are both not in their room that they shared--it's a void, for sure.

Comment by CatMom509 on October 23, 2014 at 2:44am

Megan,

It's true that some people forget that PIR is all about the Sailor and all the hard work they have gone through.  It really is their choice who is on the Access List.  Others can also fly in and meet with the Sailor for a special celebration meal though~~  Oh, and watch the Livestream PIR on a laptop or at the hotel~~

Part of the problem with FB is people feel pretty free to criticize there. Here, we foster a positive, encouraging atmosphere to help you prepare for the biggest day in your future Sailor's life--and to get you all through your own little boot camp!!

Comment by honor.courage.commitment on October 23, 2014 at 1:55am

my son s a HM and will be graduating 12/05/2014

Comment by splash on October 22, 2014 at 8:36pm

Megan...I agree with you. It is extremely rude. And what people seem to forget is that PIR is all about the recruits...and not them!  In our family we let our SR decide who will be attending...and that is it!  Anyone else that wants to come can watch the live stream.

Comment by Megan on October 22, 2014 at 6:40pm

Does it upset anyone else when family members pos on the facebook page saying how angry or upset they are about who their sailor put on the access list? Like leaving off a grand mother for a boyfriend or a sister for a good friend? I understand these family members are upset about non family taking the already limited spots but to write how you're going to ask your sailor to put others on their so there are no broken hearts is just rude! It's your sailors day and they will put on the list whomever they want! Don't make them feel bad or try to tell them what to do. If they put a SO instead of a family member clearly they want them there instead. Doesn't mean the family members can't fly for the weekend and watch the live stream. I find it very unsupportive of these family member to do this and it upsets me because I feel for their sailors. :[ Sorry for the rant but I hate things like that, you have to take what the Navy gives you and respect your sailors wishes.

Comment by CatMom509 on October 22, 2014 at 6:04pm

Michael's mom,

Sailors at Pensacola train at the Naval Ar Station (NAS) and at Corry Station for IT, so there are two schools there. Write your SR to ask him if he knows where his A school is.  Here's the link for future reference.

http://navyformoms.com/group/sailorsinpensicolaflforaschool

Also, YES, he will appreciate a home-cooked meal because chow hall food and stuff he picks up at the commissary or other fare will be what he has to choose from~~ 

 

 

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