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Hello ladies!! My name is Dani & my love and I are looking to get married as soon as we can set up a wedding. He is going to boot May 21, so getting done mid July,after that he is heading to school in Pensicola for 9 months. He & I are looking at Sept 5 for our wedding date, that way he will have adequate time to be able to get time off before we have our invitations made and sent out. I have a few questions because his recruiter does not seem like a very truthful person and I'd like to get some straight answers!! My honey's recruiter said that no one is able to bring their spouse or kids to the place where they will be having their schooling although I have seen many sites online that state that if a enlisted member (are they all sailors? Not sure about the lingo lol) is in a designated base for their schooling over 20 weeks they are able to bring their dependents and he has been told he will spend the full 9 months in Pensicola. And I have also read online that if they are unable to bring their dependents and they have to live in barracks that the dependents will receive support that the sailor is supposed to send to them. If anyone has any help, suggestions or advice it'll help me greatly because frankly I feel like a mermaid out of water sometimes when it comes to all this stuff!!!


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Dani

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From my experience, he was not able to take leave while in school. it is a case by case basis for schooling and dependants moVing there, not sure how long they have to be In school before they move dependants. Also, if you are not married before he goes you probably not be able to move unless it is out of your own pocket. If yo uare not on his orders they do not coubt you and you have to be married Before his orders areaccompanied. You should start getting BAH (housing allowance) after you are married. My husband had a few long weekends off for holidays and just the weekend but he could not take leave For an extended period of time In school. My advice, take it for what you will, If you want to plan a wedding I would do it before he goes to boot camp because It doesn't matter to the Navy if he wants to get married or not. We had our "family and friends" wedding/reception planned (we had a small ceremony 8 months before), caterer, dj, hall rented...everything and he got a call a not even a month before that he was leaving to go on deployment all of the sudden. He was already approved for leave. I am not trying to scare you but you really can not count on being able to plan anything far on advance or be able to change plans if you do. Last summer we had a whole vacation planned with friends, they told him they needed him and he had to change his Dates. Crappy thing to do but that is how it goes. Every command is different though...this one is just super special.
Thank you for your story & advice! I'm not scared, I know things can change rapidly and we are not gonna put anything "in writing" so to speak before he gets the ok. We aren't planning a big elaborate wedding, just a small country wedding in my mother's hometown, so if there is anything to cancel it will only be the cake. We have anticipated us not being able to live together, and luckily my parents have agreed to let me stay with them while he's in Pensacola if we have to, luckily it's only a 10 hour drive away so I would be able to drive and see him probably once a month.

He will not be granted leave while in A school, nor will he be able to fly home on long weekends on liberty.  You cannot set a date before he even goes to boot camp!  Drop the idea of invitations and Save the Dates until he checks into his school after boot camp.  Traditional methods no longer work for you. Welcome to the world of flexibility and innovation.  No money down on venues or vendors, unless they have a decent military clause.  You can do this!  Just not in the usual ways.  The Navy will set your wedding date for you, unfortunately.

(Liberty is normal time off such as evenings and weekends, and there is a limit on how far they may travel.  Leave is earned, paid vacation days and they may fly home on leave.  They must request leave in writing; they earn 2.5 days each month.)

What really happens:   A school is always longer than the stated seat time.  That nine months is a low estimate, not a hard and fast guarantee.  There are holds and indocs and waiting periods which are not on paper.  Also, that has to be one single school to count for moving a dependent, and does not combine A and C schools.  So you must wait and see what the current policy is when he checks in.  P-cola is very strict and some spouses did not get to move although the school was over 20 weeks.  I think P-cola goes by 26 weeks?

Timing when he can come home for a wedding: during the Christmas stand down when he is guaranteed two weeks of leave, or after A school when he gets a week to ten days (possible after C school, it depends on how fast the training pipeline is moving).   The other option is you go to P-cola and marry once he has earned his liberty phase two or three.  He has to ask permission in writing, but that is not a problem.  They will probably make him go to a class or a counseling session.  No big deal, just be aware of it.

Option three: marry right now. He is more than 60 days out from shipping, plenty of time for the recruiter to do the paperwork.

A married sailor lives in the barracks if they are unaccompanied or not authorized to Live Ashore at training commands.  But yes, they do receive BAH (basic allowance for housing) for their dependent.  During school, that is based on the zip code of where the dependent lives.  In the fleet, it is based on the zip code of the duty station, as they expect the dependent to move there and reside with the sailor.

Hi there! I am a new Navy spouse. My hubby just graduated bootcamp yesterday and is going to Pensacola today! His A school is about 8 months and I still had to move down on my own dime. He has been getting housing allowance though since we married before bootcamp which has been really nice. DO NOT count on a date whatsoever. He will not be granted any leave and he might be available for liberty on the weekends but he will still be studying and doing other things. I was so so happy we got married before bootcamp even though we debated doing it after. The Navy doesn't care about significant others they only care about spouses and kids. You probably won't be allowed to live on base (I wasn't and my husband's school is pretty long). But they do get extra pay for being married. They will get more liberty as school goes on, like getting to see you on weekends and such but it will be pretty tight still at first. But yes they do still have to live in barracks. The only A school that I've heard of that makes an exception for this is CTI school and nuke school. And yes they are all sailors once they graduate bootcamp :) they will be recruits up until they graduate and then called sailor!

AECF in Great Lakes and certain schools in Groton allow Live Ashore.

We actually found out he will only be in Pensicola for 9 weeks... Ugh sorry he does not listen well sometimes!!!!

Nine weeks, so he will be there a little longer than that.  He will probably wait to class up, so it will be difficult to know when he will graduate.  Well, that narrows your options.  Marry right now, or marry when he gets a week of leave after A school (date unknown and he will already have orders in hand).

Are you having fun yet?

Just a little update, we have decided to get married before boot camp in his pastor's office and have a reception in December when we come home for Christmas. Thank you all for your input!

Congrats and best wishes, that really is the easiest way!

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