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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak
All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC
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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed. Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.
**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:
In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).
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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED. Vaccinations still required.
**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.
RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021
Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.
Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.
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Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue
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Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue
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Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue
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Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other. A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue
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Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue
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My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue
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Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue
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Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue
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My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19. I just received his box but no form letter yet. As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos. I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue
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That's crazy! That's where my fiancé is heading and will be doing either FC or ET. If I want him to have power of attorney for me, is it the same deal with the CPC? Also, already being married and in GL...what horror stories, if any, do you have of couples that got married PIR weekend? I've heard they're more strict than others about this. I know they want to protect their sailors from marriage scams and make sure they know all the benefits, but we've been together for a long time and been through a lot of similar things we expect from the Navy while I studied business in France, so it seems ridiculous to think I would be trying to steal his money or he just wants to get BAH, but the Navy doesn't know our whole back story, and we're not super concerned about the benefits because he would prefer to forfeit the BAH to live on base because I was late getting my license, and lived in a country that I couldn't drive the cars if I wanted to, so I'm still trying to get a year accident free under my belt for insurance, and he doesn't want to worry about a car yet ( I think his heart is really set on his dream car, this old ford thing, and he wants to ditch my Prius haha). Plus, I think he has to live on base while in school. I don't need his GI Bill because I'm almost done and my school is relatively inexpensive to most American Colleges, and I have health insurance...although TriCare pricing is much more attractive compared to mine. I also feel like I'll have plenty of time to educate myself on benefits while he's in school and studying. Anyway, we've been planning this weekend for awhile (not a big ceremony, just a couple runs to the courthouse and getting enrolled in DEERs), but now I'm reading they don't like it when you run off and get married PIR weekend. Is it really that big of a deal...will he get in trouble?
Good to know. My fiancé said they told him it was always where he was living in his financial planning, but this could explain why I was off a bit. I have to go entirely math based because I am not able to see any detailed version of the check. We were convinced to wait after I returned from studying abroad because it might delay his ship date, especially with me being out of the country so long, which we had a hard enough time getting in the first place. Turns out now we have to do all this paperwork to get married without getting yelled at, and since I can't stay in GL too long, we have to try to establish power of attorney and everything too, so he can keep working on things after I leave. Speaking of which, has anyone here ever done that or is more familiar with legal things (military or not) when you come from different states of residence ( we never actually established just one, we moved a lot between our hometowns) and are meeting in a third state to sign power of attorney documents? haha oh sometimes this can all be so much fun. I wish I would've read about it more before we decided to wait. His recruiter was like God when making decisions over the past year after we had problems with the Army (no disrespect, my fiancé got injured playing football with friends and had a long recovery).
The uniform replacements have to do with changes to the uniform, but it is mostly females I think who are changing something....maybe caps and button colors, I can't remember exactly, but like I said, in RTC they should get the most up to date. Could uniform allowance have anything to do with rank? Usually it is largely ignored at RTC, but maybe that's why he said $250? In case you haven't picked up on it, this is why I handle the finances haha. He might be a little lost out there, but some of it he actually took notes on for me, thankfully, and he did make a reasonable choice for how to build his savings...although it scared me half to death when money just disappeared from his checking account five minutes before the new savings account finally loaded for me on my computer. This is where I struggle without him, I have a lot of trouble with technology, so something is wrong with my internet, and I'm totally lost haha
Thank you for the updated and additional info. It makes it all a little less stressful when we hear advice from someone ahead of us. What A school did your husband go to?
https://www.navyfederal.org/pdf/ebrochures/1169ep.pdf
http://www.defensetravel.dod.mil/site/bahCalc.cfm
Here is a link to a general explanation of the certificates thing I was talking about and a BAH calculator, which is usually based off the sailor's location (with some exceptions that you would know about before they applied) and related to the local cost of living for those of you expecting to receive it now or in the near future.
Happy Budgeting!
For those of you wondering when the paycheck will come and what is debited. For some of you long-term couples out there, most of this might be obvious, review from other jobs,or maybe old news because your SR already left, so just skip to the parts you're looking for, if any. My fiancé is currently in basic training. Because we are not married I do not receive BAH, but I do handle the finances and can tell you how the check should work based on the info my SR has received at basic and shared with me. If you think it might make a difference for timing, we use Navy Federal. Your SR's check should appear on the first of the month, so for example, my fiancé left the 6th of Jan 2016, and his first check was 1 Feb 2016. If the first paycheck comes the first of the month six weeks after he began RTC, it will include the extra two weeks of pay. What is deposited into the account should already have all allowances and debits. So, any debits can be budgeted in advance by subtracting the amount from the amount you expect your SR to make after taxes. You can make reasonable estimates before you even see the paycheck. I was only off by a small amount. Taxes apply to the state of IL, BAH is an allowance not income, and is not taxed. If you are divorced or unmarried with a child, BAH can be a grey area, but usually it is only the amount due to child support and not impacted by the cost of living wherever he goes. BAS is usually only granted when living off base (not being fed by the Navy) and is also an allowance, not income.
Shortly after they first arrive (about 5-10 days), they will have some of their paycheck debited for a NEX card. This is how they will purchase calling cards, paper, stamps, even some candy when they perform well haha. My SR only lost about $50 purchasing his first NEX card and hasn't had to buy another one yet. If you're looking to save a few dollars here and there, allowing your SR to purchase some items at the NEX can be cheaper and faster than sending them to him/her.
My fiancé received 2 sets of dress whites, a set of dress blues, and his MSU's (the khaki and black uniforms) on 28 Jan 2016. He said they supposedly give an annual $250 for uniforms, but the dress uniforms are so expensive that it doesn't feel like much of a difference. It is best to assume they will get them before their first paycheck to make it easier to debit and also to allow time to correct any defects. Again, supposedly, if there are any defects when they get them or when they report to A school, the defective items should be replaced by the military and not out of pocket. There have been scheduled changes to uniforms that are coming out in waves, but SR at RTC should receive the most up to date.
If you are not yet married (like my fiancé and I), do not count on BAH (or BAS if applicable) immediately when working on your long term budget. Allow yourself a wide buffer of about a month to be processed into DEERs, especially if you don't submit a chit beforehand because they won't be expecting the change. You SR entered a contract with the Navy as single, so there may need to be adjustments made if that changes.
Finally, if your SR has not left yet for RTC or is still in the early stages, there are many ways you can save while he is gone. Just ask! If you are using AT&T, for example, as long as they can find your recruit on the DoD page, they will suspend the phone without additional fees...no phone bill for two months! From personal experience studying abroad, I know Verizon will do a reduced rate to put a number on hold for up to three months at a time, but they might even have better offers for service members. You may also want to look into EasyStart and other certificates if you use or plan to use Navy Federal. This is something recruits will be coached about at basic while learning about financial planning, and you can talk ahead of time about which options, if any, are best for you guys.
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