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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

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Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.

RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

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Keisha

Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3875
Latest Activity: Feb 3

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue

advice!

Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by Anti M on May 5, 2016 at 7:47am

@Lindsey ... pretty much what it sounds like.  We used to cal them verbal orders, because the detailer would tell you over the phone.  The "hard" part comes from "hard copy" orders, a set of physical orders in your hands.  It simple means everything is lined up, the sailor, the command's billet, and the funding.  Hard copy orders have all the details, when to report, how long he will be there, when he rotates out, contact info, whether dependents are authorized, if the move is funded for them, if they need screening, etc.  Soft orders are like a promise ring, hard orders are a marriage.  

Comment by Anti M on May 5, 2016 at 7:43am

If he's in ATT, he's probably in one of the schools long enough to be accompanied. If he is AECF, then he is for sure.  He needs to do his live ashore packet.  I haven't seen a recent post, but I do know housing is available enough it is an option for students.  

Micheal, yes the rule of thumb for accompanied vs. unaccompanied is 20 weeks/6 months, PLUS type of duty station PLUS how the orders are written.  I've been at an isolated duty station myself, where there were zero dependents, not even visitors.  But when we're talking CONUS training commands, it usually is the 20 week rule (except for P-cola, they can be weird).  There are always exceptions, strive to figure out if we're talking situation normal, or damn, that's freaky.  LOL.  

I spend a lot of time on damn that's freaky.  For example, I can't find a thing on getting married and living with a spouse during language school.  Mixed service bases are always a pain to figure out!  

Comment by abuon18 on May 5, 2016 at 7:37am
Soft orders are just verbal orders and don't mean anything, they can be changed. Hard orders are the actual paper orders that let you know where you are going. Once you have hard orders you can start arranging housing, moving, etc. They will have his report by date and he will be able to contact his command once he has those.
Comment by Lindsey on May 5, 2016 at 7:28am
Hi everyone!! Quick question. My husband is hopefully getting soft orders and requesting hard orders, what is the difference? Nervous but excited!!!
Comment by Allison on May 5, 2016 at 2:24am
It's not really a question of whether or not I can go. As far as we've been instructed, my husband has a certain date before it's too late to qualify,and as long as the paperwork is in before that, I can be there with him. They love to make it difficult to make the date from the rumors I hear, but his NMTI has been so helpful to us. He has no idea how long the wait is though. We were just curious if anyone might have dealt with housing recently at Great Lakes who could possibly have some insights. He was going to ask around school when he gets out of the hospital, and I thought I'd check on here.
Comment by Michael on May 5, 2016 at 1:01am
Bronco. It really is dependent on the situation as my husbands good shipmate is in Connecticut for 12 months and his wife could not go with only he could. It does happen. There are orders that do not allow depandants. My father was sent to barain alone with out us and my mom for 16 months. We were not allowed to go. It does happen
Comment by Bronco14 on May 4, 2016 at 11:11pm

Hmm... I don't know about that. I would think any PCS orders (anything over 20 weeks or 6 months) would qualify for base housing. But Anti M would definitely know more!!

Comment by Michael on May 4, 2016 at 11:05pm
I would call GL you can't move in housing unless he's stationed there for a period of 9 months to a year I think as there are two people with my husband that are there 8 months for training and they're wives had to stay home. They could not move there on base unless they rented there own place. Anti M may know it better. But every situation is different.
Comment by Allison on May 4, 2016 at 10:39pm
Fortunately, someone FINALLY called me to tell me that he had trouble waking up completely after the anesthesia. He was out for a good 8 hours after the surgery. He's not feeling great, so they're keeping him overnight, but apparently it's pretty normal to not feel good the longer you're under. I was pretty upset I wasn't notified when he got out, but I understand they probably deal with a lot and notifying a spouse when it's not an emergency case is probably the last thing on their mind. I will definitely save that link though Anti M, it's probably good to have handy in case (although hopefully this never happens) anything comes up again. This incident really sparked us to get moving on our housing paperwork though. Although we understand there will be times when we're separated and can't get to each other when little things go wrong, we also want to get moving on being together while we can, especially since his full recovery is going to take a couple months. Has anyone done housing at GL recently and can give us an idea of how long it takes right now to get it? We can afford some time in a hotel for me or even a short lease on an apartment, but we can't do it more than a month or two, and it would be nice to avoid living out of suitcases while I'm working haha.
Comment by Anti M on May 4, 2016 at 10:11pm

@Dezairay ... It depends on the report date on his orders for his new command, and how many days of leave he has earned.  It can be a week or two.  

Easy to figure out how many days he has available, he earned 2.5  month since he went to boot camp.  But there is no way to know his report date until he sees his orders. 

Is he going to try to do RAP duty?  He just helps his local recruiter for a few hours for five days, and gets back five leave days when the paperwork goes through.  It really is a good opportunity to grab free leave for later.  

 

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