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Permalink Reply by Anti M on November 18, 2015 at 7:45pm

Marry now is the easiest way to do it.  The recruiter will complain, but cannot stop them.

Marrying during A school does not mean the new spouse gets moved there.  The sailor is already there, and the orders were for just a single, unaccompanied sailor.  Navy won't change that.  If the sailor is married before bootcamp, and IF the A school is longer than 20 weeks/six months, then the orders will probably include an authorized dependent move.  If so, then the spouse can move there, and the sailor can request to Live Ashore after he earns phase two liberty (i.e. not immediately, about a month or so). He must keep his grades up to retain the privilege.

No matter where the spouse is during boot camp and A school, there will be a sing allowance provided, based on their zip code.  

Permalink Reply by Lovemysailor on November 18, 2015 at 7:46pm

I got married to my sailor before bootcamp. It was easier to get all the paperwork set up like Mil ID and BAH. The recruiter told us the same thing but the fact is, they don'twant to do extra work. Getting married before allows her to get benefits as soon as he is in bootcamp. As far as A school, it depends on his rate. My husband is in IT in pensacola and I had to pay to come move down here. He can't stay with me 24/7 but he is now in phase 3 so we see each other everyday.

Permalink Reply by Texasmom on December 2, 2015 at 11:57am

Why did yu have to pay to move to A school? In that event, or even if A school isn't long enough to pay for move, does navy still approve request to live ashore? Even tho sailirs will have to be on base some, I understand from yur msgs. Until phase 2 and gotta keep grades up, may have duty etc. ?? Does sailor get paid married amounts beginning first pay in bootcamp? Since yu moved self to A school, did yur husband get bah costs for pennsacola area etc. ? Any advice welcome. By the way, my son's twin brother, is at Corry station, A school,first wk of phase 2, waiting to class up for ctn. Graduated bootcamp 11/13.

Permalink Reply by Brooke on November 18, 2015 at 7:49pm

If they're going to get married either way then I say definitely do it before boot camp!! My husband's recruiter told him he wasn't allowed to get married before boot camp (which we found out was basically just because the recruiter didn't want to do the added paperwork) so we thought we would get married during a school, his recruiter said that it was a very easy process. Let me just say that it is definitely not an easy process to get done while they're in a school. I even flew all the way to my husbands a school with every intention to get married and ended up not being able to, we then had to wait until he took leave after a school. It is so much easier to get married before hand and there are more benefits such as receiving bah right away, having health care, and then having the military pay for your move to the sailor's first duty station. Since my husband and I weren't able to get married until he was on leave after a school the navy didn't pay for my move to my husbands first duty station and we missed out on getting bah for many months when we needed it. I strongly suggest getting married before hand and don't let the recruiter pressure them out of it, especially if they know it's what they want.

Permalink Reply by Texasmom on November 18, 2015 at 8:36pm

Thank you for info. What do you mean by sing allowance?? Omg, yall are all Sooo helpful!!# I thought what you are saying was the case. Thanks! !!!

Permalink Reply by HannahLashai on November 18, 2015 at 8:41pm

Please Tell Him To Get Married Before. My Fiancé and I planned to get married before,but they called him up and told him he could leave early and that we didn't need to get married beforehand. We regret not getting married. It is gonna be extremely difficult to find time after BC to get married. We can't until he is in A school and puts in a request and goes through counseling. Many of the superiors don't like when Sailors get married in A school. During boot camp, things have been so difficult because we aren't married. We share bills,a car, everything. I can't access his money and have had to solely pay for all of our stuff with my job. Also they get paid WAY less. My friend that is married to a sailor in the same graduating class has made atleast triple in one paycheck (2600) than my Sailor has made the entire time he has been there (800). It has been a journey. We can't change it now,but I hope my experience can help yall!

Permalink Reply by Texasmom on November 18, 2015 at 9:21pm

So does he need to tell recruiter, that he IS getting married. I assume hell need to be married before recruiter starts the process then, huh?

Permalink Reply by Texasmom on November 18, 2015 at 9:26pm

Can spouses stay at navy lodge for free or cheap, if she doesn't move to A school area, but just stays there for week or so at a time. If A SCHOOL Not 6 mths long.
Also Do All Rates Have C SCHOOLS Too, OR Some Only A SCHOOL, prior to first duty station?
Thank you all for this info. My son Is here and reading YUR VALUABLE input, experiences.

Permalink Reply by Brooke on November 18, 2015 at 9:59pm

The navy lodge is around $60-$70 a night if I remember correctly. The navy lodge is mainly for families to stay in while pcsing but you can stay there for leisure trips if they have open rooms, I'm not sure if they have a limit on the number of days you can stay. Also not all rates have c schools it just depends on the rate and the sailors orders.

Permalink Reply by HannahLashai on November 18, 2015 at 10:03pm

Yes,They will more than likely continue to try and tell him not to or that it will complicate it, but just be firm. It is alot harder after Boot camp.

Permalink Reply by Texasmom on November 18, 2015 at 10:34pm

Thank you!! OK last question for now!!! Do you think he will need to get married before he starts the process? I mean he's been to recruiter before, cuz he and his twin brother both began enlistment process before. But his brother went in, this guy, decided not to go due to girlfriend. Once we went to his twin brothers graduation from bootcamp 11/13, hes decided to enlist afterall. Went to recruiter today and she said wait till after bc. So we know now it's best to go ahead and Marry now, prior to bc. But will he need to go ahead and marry prior to recruiter starting process.

Permalink Reply by wigglyturtle on December 18, 2015 at 3:48am

My husband and I were engaged already the first time we went to meet a recruiter, so noone ever tried to tell us we couldn't get married (we're also older, my husband was 26 at the time). His recruiter was great and openly admitted that she hasn't ever recruited someone that was married before so it would be a learning process for her too. After reading so many stories about recruiters telling people not too do it, I am 100% convinced it's only because they either don't want to do the paperwork or don't know how to do it. I had to go in with my husband a couple times to give my information and do a financial statement, so there is more work for them. If possible, just do it before even meeting the recruiter - then they really can't complain at all. Like others have said, definitely before boot camp if they're going to get married anyway.

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