This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.

Navy Social Links Para Padres

Visite esta página para explorar en su idioma las oportunidades de educación y carreras para sus hijos en el Navy.

Format Downloads:

First Time Here?

Before you get started, make sure to read over our Community Guidelines.

Create a profile so you can post Photos and Videos of your son or daughter and share stories with other moms.

If you’re looking for specific answers or just someone to talk with one-on-one, browse the Forums or search Members profiles.

Navy Speak

See this PDF for Navy Speak

N4M Merchandise


**Please note: Profits generated in the production of this merchandise are not being awarded to the Navy or any of its suppliers. Any profit made is retained by cafepress or zazzle




Sub Moms

Welcome to the deep, silent world of submarines!  If you're new to this world, start by reading the "Pages" of info found in the right-hand column, below the strip of member avatars.

We welcome your questions.  But, while you're here, maintain silence... don't slam doors or the lid on the toilet!


Group Administrator: Kaye S. Kaye S.

Members: 1683
Latest Activity: on Monday




in the right-hand column, under the avatars ----->


These articles are the "reference library" for moms, ready to answer FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions) 24x7 (twenty-four hours, seven days a week).  You may not have to post a question after all!  Thanks, Kaye S.






Need an Ombudsman?  OMBUDSMAN REGISTRY

Discussion Forum

Any Wyoming blue moms out there?

Started by P's_mom. Last reply by navymom2015 Jul 26. 3 Replies

Roll Call: Name your sailor's sub!

Started by Kaye S.. Last reply by Nuke & HM Mom Jul 7. 1264 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Sub Moms to add comments!

Comment by WearsLargeHats on August 12, 2016 at 3:51pm

Confetti, in the BEQ, nobody will care as long as the room is neat, orderly, and secure. It never even occurred to me to ask about sheets on the boat. I am sure your sailor will find out. I seem to recall hearing that many take their own sheets or blankets on deployment, but then I have also heard that submariners can and do sleep anywhere.
At least Virginia-class has more berthing space, I think, than LA class. My son is sleeping with the torpedoes on this trip.

Comment by Confetti on August 12, 2016 at 2:40pm

Does anyone know if the USS Hawaii can sheet other than white ones for the newbies?

Comment by V'sMom 1348 MT on August 11, 2016 at 7:31pm
Thank you J's/S's Mom! I sent another email that was short and sweet with no info about his uncle. I hope he gets that! Tell me about the ombudsman. Who is that and how can I find out where she/he is and how to contact them?
Comment by J's/S'smom on August 11, 2016 at 2:12am

V's Mom,  all of the emails are read or scanned before they reach your sailor. News of deaths, illnesses, struggles, or the infamous "dear john" letters are usually withheld from sailors during deployments or critical training times. Even if your sailor specified that he wants to be informed of deaths in the family, the command can over-rule that preference. Every boat works differently, but on my son's boat there was a small number of sailors who had the task of checking  emails. They withheld all negative news from the sailors--even if the sailor had said they wanted to know of deaths in the family, etc. I numbered my emails to my sailor so that he could tell me which ones he was missing. The one missing email had something in it about his grandfather's cancer--and, even though it was good news, the word "cancer" must have been enough to block the email.  Try sending a really short email--less than 50 words--that is like a boot-camp letter (all encouragement and sunshine). If he gets that email, then it's possible that your emails are being withheld due to content (length or news). It's also entirely possible that the email system isn't quite working right, and he'll get a bazillion emails all at once.

You could ask the ombudsman if she knows if there are any email glitches or if she knows why your emails aren't going through; but, until you hear back, just try  sending something short and humorous/encouraging, etc.

Fingers crossed you can get a message to him....and hang in there....

Comment by V'sMom 1348 MT on August 11, 2016 at 12:56am
Hello ladies. I haven't been on the Navy Moms site for quite a long while. My apologies but I am at my wit's end and I am hoping some of you could provide insight. My son's sub has been out on patrol for a couple months. We have been sending emails but it doesn't appear that he has been receiving them. For the first month or so, he did get them, but lately he hasn't been getting them. Email from him has been sporadic and at one point he said that they hadn't been able to send or receive for a couple weeks. But in the last couple weeks he hasn't gotten email from us. He has sent a couple short notes in the last week and a half or so where he mentions that he hasn't gotten messages from us. I have sent him important family news; his uncle (my brother), who he knew had been very ill, passed away. What can I do to find out what is going on with the email situation?? He has been in almost 3 years, but this is his first patrol. (He's a nuke) I know there are others with more pressing problems so I appreciate any suggestions. Thank you!
Comment by LindaGirl on August 3, 2016 at 4:40pm
NavyMom2015, just to let you know, yes it is nice to be on the ombudsman list, but I think it is more for spouses then for parents, so don't feel bad if you are not on it. I agree with the other Navy moms, you have a better chance of hearing from your son, then from the ombudsman.
Comment by Barbara on August 3, 2016 at 4:09pm

Our youngest son has been in the Navy since 2008 and has been on a few deployments and even though we have always been on the list, the ombudsman has never call, emailed, texted, snail mailed us. I am just glad that our son had been able to contact us at some point when he has been away. I am not sure what other responsibilities the ombudsman has, but maybe with everything else they have to keep on top of family communication may sometimes gets put on the back burner I guess. I just feel bad that we have never been given the opportunity to be there for him when he has returned from a deployment. We only know he is back because he called us. So don't worry your son will contact you when he can. My advise is to ALWAYS have your phone/cell phone with you at ALL TIMES day and night. 

Comment by CO-TwinSalorsMom on August 3, 2016 at 3:51pm
I did bug my son until he put me on the obundsman list. I only got three emails I think in six months from her. She said twice when we could send a card and once for homecoming. Hen your son surfaces somewhere he should be able to call you.
Comment by Kaye S. on August 2, 2016 at 1:49pm

Ha!  Left out what to read (found in the "Pages," right-hand column - top article):

How to Send Email to a Submarine

Comment by Kaye S. on August 2, 2016 at 1:48pm


You don't have to be on a list to send/receive emails.  If you know the boat name & color of crew, you can send email.  Read "    " and figure out his address.

IF THIS IS A FIRST CRUISE:  Moms, be aware that "nubs" (Non-Useful Body) are very, very, very busy trying to qualify - not only for Dolphins, but for lots of different watches.  Until they qualify for their share of watch, they will catch grief for not studying during their down time.  Seriously, they may be thinking of you everyday, but can't get to a computer to tell you.

This is the tough part of being a Navy mom... DON'T tell your sailor how sad you are, how you wish he'd write more, or anything else to "grief" him into paying you more attention.  He's getting plenty of "tough love" from his shipmates.

DO come here and have all the temper tantrums you like...we'll hold your hand and pass you tissues.  I'm a 10-year mom now, and I still grumble to my husband that my son is ignoring me.  Don't tell me that he's a Lead PO now, with a wife and three small children...HE'S IGNORING ME!  :-)  :-)  :-)  LOL!


© 2016   Created by Navy for Moms Admin.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service